Early on, I set out with intentions to enjoy the process of wedding planning and to always maintain perspective – to remember that I wanted to create a marriage that was more beautiful than our wedding. And so I did my best to infuse each step of the planning with love, attention to detail, and a deep appreciation for all of the help we received along the way. I wasn’t always perfect, but I did always try.
I was never one of those girls who grew up planning her own future wedding. In fact, the idea of getting married in front of a bunch of people terrified me. My expectations, however, couldn’t have been further from reality. In a good way. If I could bottle up all the love that filled our day, I would. If I could relive it over and over and over, I would. Although we spent many long months planning every single detail of our big day, those aren’t the things I’ll remember. Not at all.
Instead, I’ll remember I was getting my make-up done when it started to snow, and I watched it through the window. I’ll remember our first look, and how all the nerves in me washed away once we saw each other that morning. I’ll remember that all of our guests were hiding out in the pier bar because it started raining, snowing and hailing right before the ceremony. I’ll remember that we made the most of the crazy weather, and that I thought to myself that someone must be looking down on us, because the sun came out just long enough for our ceremony. I’ll remember that my dad got a bloody nose as we were about to walk down the aisle, and it stopped right as it was our turn to go. I’ll remember that although we forgot to put out some of our wedding decorations, or do certain things that day, it didn’t matter. I’ll remember so many things from that day. But most of all, I’ll remember that all that mattered to me on that day was that I was marrying my best friend, and the rest was just fluff.
And so my advice to you, my future and current brides, is to remember to focus on what matters. Although countless hours are spent creating the perfect wedding — and it’s easy to get caught up in the details of it all, perfecting every last centerpiece — don’t lose perspective on the love that brought you to this moment and the love that will sustain your marriage. The rest is just fluff.